Friday, 10 July 2015

When in Rome

The Vatican Museum with it's Sistine Chapel is a tourist attraction. One in which for most, the orgy of art and artifacts far outweighs the religious meaning or value of the Vatican.

Even though the Museum has been open for only half an hour, the line up outside is 150 deep. Our pre purchased passes (so worthy of a high five here!) has us around the corner and through the doors before sweat begins to bead and roll down my back.

Inside, the Museum is crawling, at a snails pace, with groups and individuals like ourselves anxious to get our turn inside the famous Sistine Chapel. First though, we are shepherded through many halls ornately decorated from floor to ceiling with paintings, gold thread infused tapestries bigger than my living room and row upon row of marble columns thicker than my house.

 By the time we reach the Chapel, I feel queasy.  Sick to my stomach that so much has been crammed into this place. I am not a Catholic, but I consider those who are and consider it a shame that millions of them will never enter this place and see these beautiful creations.

When I enter into the Holy place I hear the shushin hiss of security. Silence cannot be achieved let alone maintained. I see many surreptitiously taking photographs and videos. Some are caught and asked to stop but many others grin as they paplm their smart phones and snap away as though being disrespectful in this of all places makes them really super intelligent.

I watch the people more than I look at the paintings for by now my appreciation for the art has been diminished by the sheer volume of it. I would liken it to walking into a hoarders home and not knowing where to rest your eyes because there is so much vying for their attention. There is a small group of seven or eight priests who I enjoy watching as they wander taking in the surroundings. There are also a handful of security guards weaving through the crowd.

I gradually drift to the back of the room then turn toward the altar and contemplate the magnitude of the space. I think of Michelangelo reading the Bible and working diligently until his paintings were complete. I think of the Pope entering this space. I think of the babies baptized and people of all faiths who walk through the doors and manage to remember the Holy part embodied by the space.

I bow my head, thankful that the paintings, whispers and whirring cameras fall away and I am again alone with myself and my creator. I take a moment to breathe and to remember who I am and whose I am before returning my attention to the physical world around me. After 45-minutes or so we exit the Chapel and move into the adjourning room. Like the others, it is massive, adourned with paintings and lined with glass cases which hold gold and silver dust collectors. Who on earth has to keep all of those cases and all of that stuff clean?

As I take in my surroundings, I notice a Priest sitting and reading in the corner to my left. Before him is a desk and two chairs as well as a sign which reads "Art and Faith, A Priest for you." I watch a hundred or more people stream past him and on through the room. Though many stop to crowd around the lady beside him who is selling DVD's of the Chapel, not one looks twice at the robed figure. He is bypassed as everyone rushes on, feeding their gluttonous need to electronically capture the material smorgasbord before them.

Still watching, I cross to the other side of the room before backtracking and sitting opposite him at the desk. I am surprised, really that I made it back across the floor and to him, but also not surprised. I have no desire to talk about art and I explain this as we begin chatting.

What I want is simple and two pronged: to acknowledge him and to continue infusing this journey of mine with spirituality, wherever I may be and with whomever has the ability to keep me moving in that direction.

 Non-Catholicism declared, we go on to enjoy a 25-minute conversatioin which makes him late for prayers in the Chapel. After rising, shaking his hand and gaining permission to take this photo, I am able to walk away and through the numerous ensuing rooms of "valuables" knowing that I took the time to find and speak to the most valuable treasure of all - a human being.


Thursday, 2 July 2015

Digitally Yours

I watch your
life unfold
on the ten second
chats you snap;
see your face 
in my online book
and wonder 
where our timeline is
going.

You 
twitter 
when I 
tweet 
but our
digital lives keep
us from getting any
face time.

I troll around and
Google 
you,
sift through your 
instant pictures 
for
proof of your 
(p)interest;
read between the lines
of your 
text.

As my hope goes
up in smoke like 
Tinder
my 
Candy-coated crush
begins to fade
and I remind
myself that 
WOW
there are 
Plenty of fish
in the sea.


- Vera

Wednesday, 1 July 2015

On Terrorists and Travelling

The day before we left for Paris, there were three terrorist attacks reported worldwide; one in Tunisia, one in Kuwait and the other in Lyon, France which happens to be the second stop on this European trip.

Before boarding the plane, a flight attendant announced that it would be a full flight. A brief montage of video clips from the news of flights gone wrong passed through my mind. I stepped into the jetway wondering if the flight would make it to its destination yet I did it anyway.

Ten hours and two take-offs later, we landed safely in Paris.

As we tour around, I have an awareness which I admit that I never had before.  One which has me always looking at those around me and making sure that nobody gets too close.  Admittedly I am looking not just for a terrorist - whatever that looks like - but also for the pickpocket or his more violent cousin the mugger.

Today's tourist destination? The Eiffel Tower.  As we rounded the corner and the monument came into view, I was overcome with joy.  It was exciting, seeing something so significant in person after seeing it so many millions of times on tv and in pictures.  It was overwhelming standing beneath it and looking up through it to the blue of the sky.  It was incredible and simultaneously unnerving noticing the sheer volume of people streaming around me.

To enter the toilette, one had to reveal the contents of ones purse - for me, a backpack - before permission was granted from the security guard on duty. This experience was a double-edged sword. One that made me feel like I was ok in the underground ladies rooms but also made me feel more vulnerable when I returned to the open courtyard above.

My fear of heights and aversion to waiting more than two hours in extreme heat while strangers pressed against me was enough to have me just stroll through the area with my feet planted firmly on the ground.

As we rode the very crowded subway back to our Paris base, I asked myself the big "what if" question; "what if there were a terrorist on the subway?"  I have to admit that while it crosses my mind and even while I look at the people around me, it feels more like a game that I am playing. In these moments I am not filled with fear so much as I am filled with a curiosity about myself and the people I live in the world with.

We make it safely back, as odds would predict, and I spend an enjoyable time preparing the first meal I have cooked in days. With a full belly I wonder...did the terrorists win because they have influenced the way that I think as I move through the world or have I for knowing they exist yet travelling anyway?

Sunday, 21 June 2015

Happy Father's Day

This Father's Day I salute Marty Umanetz and every other man who has stepped forward to raise children who are not biologically their own.

Because you generously share yourself, I have watched my kids learn to believe they are worthy of a father's attention and love.

I have watched you fit soccer shoes on anxious feet, kiss away tears, speak reasonably, then loudly, then not really speak at all...I think it's called yelling?

I have watched the thrill on my son's face as he used a chainsaw; watched the kids paddle through calm waters; hike through deer riddled woods; fly down tobagganing hills which I am still not convinced were particularly safe...we'll have to talk about that!

You have taught them to fish, to paint; play guitar. To hope; set goals; work hard; be accountable; be responsible; take pride in their work; laugh; and love even when it means letting go.

I have watched you apologize; accept; regret; reconcile; and fall in love.

Every day my appreciation and respect for you grows as does my love and theirs.

Many men are father's because they have children, you have chosen to be a father when you didn't have to and for that I will always love and respect you.

Happy Father's Day

Monday, 15 June 2015

Friendship



I was driving down the street yesterday when I saw these two ladies strolling through the afternoon sunshine. They were walking and laughing and I, passing on the side of the road was roped in by the simple joy of it. I drove two blocks further down the road before I remembered that my camera was in the car.

I pulled a U-turn and found them, still walking and still laughing as they continued on their path to wherever. In my minds-eye, I pictured myself 30 years from now, walking with a good friend, sharing tales of our youth and remembering the times we were footloose and fancy free or found ourselves sharing a laugh in spite of the fact that we were encumbered and heavy with the weight of our world.

In spite of the obvious reasons why I shouldn't, I put the camera to my eye and took this pic. Now at a busy intersection, I wished the women were someplace I could pull over and talk to them. Where I could ask them about their friendship and joy or ask them if they had any advice they wished to share. I wished I had a moment to thank them for being on my path, to offer them a copy of the pic.

Instead, I pulled another U-turn and continued on my way, thinking of the friends I would like to take as far forward into the future as my life stretches and of the joy and support I hope we continue to give each other as we move through this lifetime.

I hope that when I realize my time here is running out that I decide to make up for the 40+ years I didn't wear eyeshadow and try to wear them all at once as this lady – for whatever reason – does and I hope that the friends I have will be able to overlook it enough to want to hold my hand anyway.

I hope that, no matter how slowly, I am able to walk freely without the aid of a walker or cane. That my hands are free for holding and that I have enough control over them that I can manage to hold on to another.

I hope that my memory is good enough that I can remember who my friends are and what they bring to my life but also that it is short enough that the laughter matters more than the tears.

I hope that I still want to be touched.

I don't know why these women were holding hands. I know that over the years many women have held my hands both literally and figuratively and that it was always a reflection of a deep emotional connection that we shared.


As I arrive in my driveway, the warmth in my heart causes me to send a prayer of peace and gratitude to these women. To all women and the friendships that hold us together when it feels for all the world like we're falling apart.

Saturday, 13 June 2015

Stronger

Stronger
when I say yes instead of no
Stronger 
when I relax and let life flow
Stronger
when I let a weakness show
Stronger
when I absorb the blow
Stronger
when I breathe and let it go
Stronger
when I feel my spirit grow
Stronger 
when I celebrate your glow
Stronger
when I eat my plate of crow
Stronger
when I reap the seeds I sew
Stronger
when my ducks get out of row
Stronger
when I love and let you know.

- Vera

Wednesday, 10 June 2015

The Tale




If you ignore the multitude
red white and green signs against
trespass
walk through the silent
fallen and their sentries standing
guard
tiptoe 'round the poison ivy
on the path well worn by 
dissenters who have come before
hoping patrollers of this
man-made free environment
fail
to see necessity of taking their
job too seriously
you will come to
the place.

A long shoreline
where beaver deer bear 
congregate with birds and
their prey
A place where you try to
spill only the blood of the battling worm
before you arc rod
snap it forward
watching
hooked bait sail across
calm waters.

The world and it's trappings fall
away
relaxed yet poised to react 
you
breathe life into dreams
while 
mosquitoes buzz away drunk with gratitude

Whether the fish bite or not is
irrelavant
you have a grand tale of adventure and daring
that every 11-year-old boy should
have in his arsenal to
tell.

- Vera